Da Mu Hsing I-V

Da Mu Hsing I-V.  This was the form I chose for the Year of the Ox.

In hindsight, choosing all 5 sections was what I would now call a somewhat "overenthusiastic" choice and perhaps a rookie move. But nonetheless, I made the commitment and I will follow through with it.  

With parts IV and V never being covered in the level 1 class, it was up to me to learn those later sections via the livestream videos and by utilizing 1-on-1's.  This presented some challenges.  There has been a lot of back and forth with progress videos and several things have been caught that way.  But there’s only so much that can be seen on a screen and it’s been rare that an instructor or higher cue belt has had the opportunity to see my form live.  

Having said that, I think this method of learning has actually provided me with an advantage and a boost in my training. The videos and 1-on-1’s have provided me with the basics, but the development and fine tuning has mostly been up to me.  I’ve really had to pay attention to what’s working and what’s not….what feels right and what doesn’t.  I’ve had to rely on my own self awareness rather than having someone simply point out that I’m doing something wrong.

My training with Da Mu Hsing hasn’t only been advantageous with the form itself…but also in developing the skills that allow me to recognize these finer details on my own.  And whenever you discover something on your own, your ability to retain it…and to apply it in other areas increases exponentially.  

Ultimately, I'm really pleased with how my Da Mu Hsing form is evolving.

Although now that I think about it, it still hasn’t really been seen in a live scenario….so this is sort of an uneducated opinion.  Lol. 

Pushed

This week has been very challenging for me.  Ms Lee’s “Aversive Wednesday’s” come to mind.

There have been a lot of kicks.  And if I had to pick the one thing that I am weakest at, it would be kicks.  And I mean this both physically, and mentally.  I work at them constantly, but they are still a struggle.  Add in all the repetitions, the variety, the bagwork and the race....and I was pushed much further than I ever have been before.  By the end, I was totally and completely gassed.  Thank-you to Ms Poitras for not being easy on me and making me fight for every inch.  Truly.

These classes are what I have been needing.  And I hope there will be more.  Being pushed to the limit keeps me from over-thinking...hesitating...or getting frustrated...because there's just no time.  Keep going, or be left behind.

"Less Yack, more Smack"....wise advice.

Challenges

I know it will probably come as a great shock to all of you, but I like challenges.

Challenges, for me, tend to shake things up a bit to the regular day and provide both physical and mental stimulation.  They are something that generates excitement and engagement with the team and the school.  I enjoy coming up with ways to engage, and help others do the same, and am continually inspired by everyone that participates.  It promotes that feeling of comradery amongst us and they become a common goal that we can work towards together.  And yes, it leaves me with a feeling of accomplishment when I manage to complete them successfully.  When we are on a life long journey, full of ups and downs, as we are in Kung Fu, these little "wins" along the way can help us maintain the momentum we need to continually move forward.  

In addition to all of this, challenges are yet another opportunity to learn.  I enjoy testing various techniques and methods to see what works for me and what doesn't.  I also find it interesting to see what works, or doesn't work, for others.  My intent with challenges isn't that I continue on with it 100% once it ends.  My intent is that I learn something from it, even if I'm not ready to implement that knowledge right away.  As with so many of the things we are being exposed to, once the seeds are planted, they will be there ready to grow when the conditions are right.

Maybe I Should Get Some Fish

As I mentioned at our meeting, I feel like I haven't really had much downtime to reflect or sift through all my thoughts, as of late.  I'm actually pretty sure my share at class was somewhat scattered and disorganized, so I apologize for that.  It's funny, because I had sorted through some things that I was going to share prior to our meeting, and then when the time came I found myself unable to reign them in and present them in a coherent way.  Most things weren't even mentioned.  I started 4 different blogs today, all with plenty of content...none with much direction or clarity.  So I decided to just write this one. 

It’s not a feeling of being overwhelmed.  I typically have a lot going on and am always pretty busy with various projects.  There was a time when Emma was about 3, Nathan just born, we had just moved to the acreage, 2 dogs, 3 feral cats that adopted us….and I decided I needed to get an aquarium and fish.  Whenever things are hectic, it’s now a running joke with my Father in Law that I should get some fish.  But I'm also the type that flourishes with alot going on.  I thrive with the activity.  And I've always been really good at multi-tasking and compartmentalizing, but over the last week or so I can't seem to keep things as orderly as normal.  I would describe it as not being able to decompress or debrief.  If that makes any sense.

So when things don't seem to be flowing as nicely as they normally do, I like to take stock of what's changed....what's different…to see if I can pinpoint the issue.  And there seem to be a couple things.

The first is that I haven’t been blogging as often as I normally do.  This might be because the majority of my computer time has been utilized for the demo video.  And I’ve mentioned before how the more I blog, the more I’m able to progress by reflecting regularly on what I'm doing.  If I’m blogging less, this might be contributing to why I haven’t been able to keep everything as clear and organized as normal.

Something else that has been missing recently from my daily routine is my meditation.  It was cut and replaced by some of the other physical things I've been wanting to accomplish.  But I wonder now if that's something that shouldn't be sacrificed.  I wonder if I have somehow upset the balance I had established.

Only one way to find out I suppose.

IHC Number Update - August 3, 2021

 My August IHC Update

✅ = achieving/exceeding my numbers or generally on track where numbers don't really apply.  

❌ = behind on my numbers, things aren't going well or I haven't taken any steps to complete the goal yet.

➖ = unsure of progress, the opportunity hasn't presented itself yet, it may take the full year to properly evaluate, or it's something I would need my instructors to determine my success/failure.  I've decided to still list these things here just as a reminder that they are still requirements.

⭐ = Complete

Base Requirements

✅  Hand Form - Da Mu Hsing I-V  489/1000

✅  Knife Form - Goju-Shorei Talon  491/1000

✅ Push-ups  24,952/50,000

✅ Sit-ups  24,963/50,000

✅ Sparring  490/1000 *I'd like to get better at my sparring...but I'm not really sure how.  I practice the 1, 2 and 3 step sparring alot...and "jab, reverse, hook, uppercut" is getting a bit overdone....lol.  I had an idea of coming up with some "choreographed" sparring sequences that I could just play out because I really need to incorporate more variety.

✅ Kilometers 952/1609

✅ Acts of Kindness 498/1000

✅ Blogging/Online Presence

✅ Unexcused Absences

➖ Mastery by Stewart Emery - I understand the premise, but certainly can't recite it yet.

✅ Mend a Relationship - I am going camping with my brother in September and he has invited my Dad along.  And I'm actually looking forward to it.

✅  Lion Dancing - we've been working on this in class recently.  I still feel mostly awkward, but I think I'm starting to find some moments of clarity in my movements.

 ❌ Tiger Challenge

✅  Public Performances - Virtual demo...but I'm thinking some live ones will be in my future soon.

➖  Core Curriculum - Instructors call

✅  SRKF Projects and Initiatives - nearing completion of the pushup/situp demo video!

Personal Requirements

➖  Weekly Dharma Talks - I haven't been reading much the last bit as I've been spending most of my spare time on the demo video.   Hmmm....is this an excuse?  Or a reason?  It's sometimes hard to tell.  I suppose I will know once the video is done and that time opens back up.

❌ Pottery - Still haven't gotten back on the wheel.  Although I have been writing down lots of ideas.  But I need take those ideas from paper and actually do them.

❌  Box Jumps - I haven't made one attempt since I fell.  🐔

⭐ Learn how to change my car tires  - Complete.

➖ Learn how to change Oil  - still waiting for an opportunity.  I did assist in bleeding brakes though!  Not sure I'll ever use that knowledge again. lol

✅ Indoor Plant - this is all going really well!  It's just a part of my day and every time I look at them I have a certain sense of pride.  It's funny how plants can make me smile so easily.  I need to get myself a double sided stand of some kind for in front of my windows and then I'll probably expand.

✅ Save for Family Getaway - it's measly but I've started once again.

✅ Compliment Dan, Emma and Nathan at least once a day.

⭐ Children's book - Complete.

Conversations with Dan

This blog is a compilation of some brief conversation tidbits I've had with Dan with regards to Kung Fu.  Some make me laugh...some make me roll my eyes...and others make me want to throw a spear hand somewhere soft.  

Either way, I thought you might enjoy these....some of you might recognize the first one.

Dan: [After overhearing the IHC team meeting]

You should go get me some popcorn.

Me:  No, I'm comfy.

Dan: huh...Jeff seems to think we have a good thing going...but now I just don't know.

Me:  [makes popcorn]

Dan:  Are you jealous that I can call Jeff "Jeff" and Khona "Khona"?

Me:  No.

Dan:  You should be.  It means they like me better.

Me:  [eye roll]

Me:  [laughing because I am beating both him and my mom at cards]

Dan:  I don't think this is how a black belt would act.

Me:  I'm not a Black Belt.

Dan:  Well not with that attitude.  Do I need to call Jeff?

Me:  [scowls and stops laughing]

Me:  [training at home, early morning]

Dan:  I'm going to run out.

Me:  Ok, can I make you a coffee to go?

Dan:  No, no.....you just carry on with your Kungfoolery.

Dan:  We should think of something you can do to end your day with Kung Fu on a positive note.

Me:  Why?  I'm fine.  Just a bit tired.

Dan:  Really?  You're sure?  You're not feeling even a little bit down because your side heel is total garbage and you biffed real hard on your plyo box this morning?

Me: [dead faced stare]

This is what I have to deal with Team. Every. Single. Day.  😉

Hoya Carnosa

One of my plant cuttings that I’ve been propagating finally sprouted some growth.  It’s been over three months of no visual change.   Without seeing any evidence of growth, I was sure it was a goner.  But at the same time, the last single leaf left on the cutting was still green!  So even though there was no new growth, it hadn’t died.  Sifu advised me (on more than one occasion) to be patient…these things take time.  And so I continued to care for it diligently, until suddenly…growth!  Something I could see.

Of course, with plants, we know that the initial, most important growth, happens in the soil, where it can’t be seen.  The root system….the foundation the plant will need in order to become strong and to ensure it’s development, and survival, above.  This needs to be established first, before it can promote the further growth of stems, leaves, flowers or fruit. 

As I sat and reflected on this, I couldn’t help but wonder what kind of “root system” I need to develop before I will see any of the more obvious growth on the exterior.  It can be hard to stay positive and trust that there are still important things going on without visual evidence.  I need to trust that, as long as I continue to work hard, growth is still happening beneath the surface.  Perhaps not as fast as I’d like…but it’s happening nonetheless.  And one day, like a plant, I’ll just suddenly sprout a new leaf.  🙂

Why Do I Blog?

Blogging is probably the single most positive tool that I have at my disposal.  It doesn't matter what injuries I'm dealing with...how old I get...what my cue belt level is.  It helps motivate me.  It helps me track my progress, keep me organized and develop strategies and plans.  It helps me reflect, on both the good and the bad.  It helps me vent frustrations.  It helps me reach out when I didn't even realize I needed to reach out.  It helps me quash any negativity before it festers into something more.  It serves as a reminder of what worked and what didn't.  It helps me both establish and maintain connections with my teammates and my instructors.  It helps me relate with those that have experienced the same struggles…and the same success.  It helps me correct my perspective when needed…even if it’s the people reading that are doing the correcting.  I could go on.  There are too many benefits to count.

Having said that, it's not always easy.  There are times that I feel embarrassed about the challenges I'm facing or the things that I'm struggling with.  There are times I struggle with how to put things in words or that I'm exposing too much of myself and opening myself up to judgement.  Sometimes what I'm trying to say comes across how I intended, and sometimes it doesn't.  Sometimes what I write seems irrelevant or just plain dumb.  But once I get past worrying about how it will look to others, that's when the words start to flow.  My blog is for me.  The most important thing is that I understand it, that it's relevant to me and that I am getting something out of it.  If others can take something from my blogs, that is just an awesome bonus.

There was a time that I held back.  I feared that others would start to feel overburdened or even annoyed with reading them.  Or that they would become a source of contention for anyone that struggled with blogging.  I wanted the things I shared to be helpful, not overbearing.  I had several un-published blogs that sat hidden away.  But I was quickly reminded that I should be publishing everything, all the time.  That this is my journey and I should embrace that this particular tool has been so advantageous to me.  And so I’ve continued in that manner.

The more I blog, the more I seem to be able to maintain a steady flow of progression.  I am able to express my thoughts, evaluate them, release them and then move forward.  Often, a blog that starts out as something negative, will change as I write it and become something positive.  As I write the words down, I tend to see things differently and can even come full circle from a place of confusion or frustration, to one of understanding.  And so I find blogging to be therapeutic in a way.  I feel like if I were to keep everything in, especially the struggles, then I would never be able to sort them out into something manageable and would never be able to move on.  As though, at some point, my mind would become so full that there would be no room for anything else.  My internal, mental and emotional self would be so bogged down it would just stall out, and then my physical self would eventually do the same.

Blogging, for me, is like taking a big butterfly breath.  Breathing in, I record and share my journey.  Breathing out, I reflect, learn and move forward.

Warning! Negative Blog.

WARNING!!  This blog is all kinds of negative.

I'm feeling both frustrated and despondent this morning.  It's funny how our perspective and demeanor can change so quickly.  Not funny "ha-ha".

I was working on my side heel again this morning.  As you all know it's been a constant struggle for me with this kick.  And I had thought that I was getting pretty good at just taking it in stride...and just accepting that it's difficult for me and that I will get there eventually.  But this morning I just found myself getting frustrated and then angry.  Because seriously....how am I still so brutal at this?  I can't even venture a guess as to how many of these kicks I've thrown since last July (July 9, to be exact, was the day I decided I was going to really focus on this kick).  And except for a short break last December, I have maintained that focus.  How do I know this?  I can establish a timeline from my blogs.  I also searched "side heel" in my blog and I have 16 postings that refer to working on my side heel in some capacity since then.  Twelve months...16 blogs.  So I know that there has been effort.

I'm not expecting mastery in a years time.  But I would think I should have established some sort of consistency in my ability by now.  But that's just not the case.  I'll feel really great for a day or two...like things are really starting to improve.  I'll feel like I've figured some things out....made some positive adjustments...feel more confident...and then...💩...back to the same as before.  And I don't mean "2 steps forward, 1 back"....I mean "2 steps forward, 2 or 3 back".  I don't believe my perception is tainted...I've got video.

So here's where I'm at this morning.  I am asking myself today, what's the point?  If in a years time I haven't made noticeable improvement, then wouldn't my time be better spent elsewhere?  Wouldn't it be better to just stop focusing on something that consistently brings such a negative vibe to my training?  I find it hard to celebrate the things that are going well when I have this cloud of frustration always hanging over my head.  And it's become apparent that my other kicks have been neglected and are now suffering.  What's even more frustrating is that this isn't lack of effort...but instead that what I've been doing just obviously isn't working.  But I can't seem to figure out what does work.  And it's starting to feel like a waste of time.  So at what point do I just forget about it altogether and just resign myself to the fact that this is just something I can't do?  I don't know the answer.

Even though this was where I ended with my side heel today...I don't like to finish my training on such a low.  So I decided to do some box jumps and end on a positive note.  Boost my spirit.  I was going to aim for 4 in a row, with 3 being my personal best so far.  But I cracked my hands on the box, caught my foot and then fell.  And I couldn't work up the courage to try again.  So I may be back to 0 on that as well.

So yeah...here we are.  A bruised and sore hand and an even more bruised and sore spirit.

The Ripple Effect

I am starting to realize just how much our journeys can permeate into the lives of those around us.  And honestly, it is becoming one of the most fulfilling rewards for my efforts.  Every day, I'm seeing more and more signs of influence on my friends and family.

My kids are incorporating Kung Fu into their lives more and more, just on their own.  They wanted to bring their sticks on this last camping trip.  And I overheard them teaching friends the crane stance while balancing on logs.

Dan has started doing push-ups and sit-ups (of his own accord) and has joined me on occasion with my hip opening stretches.

My mom, 73, who has apparently always had a fear of jumping with both feet off the ground, was inspired with my box jumping and actually jumped.  The excitement on her face was priceless.

A friend has been making efforts to heal his relationship with his sister.

Another friend, has become noticeably more empathetic to those around him.

Obviously I don't take credit for the choices that these people have all made.  Their decisions to take action, and to make changes, are their own.  But I tend to think there was at least some influence there...just as I have been influenced and inspired by others around me.

Like ripples in a pond, tiny changes within ourselves will impact those around us.  And then those around them.  And so on.  Although we are just tiny individuals in an infinite universe, our reach can be great.

Let's make some ripples and see what happens.  😉

Learning To Steer

I’ve been experiencing some really great moments in Da Mu Hsing recently.  Specifically with feeling much more aware of my center.  When it’s low and strong. When it’s elevated and fragile.  When everything seems to flow from, and around, it.  Or when everything feels somewhat disconnected.  

The progress I’m experiencing isn’t necessarily with being more consistently centered, but instead, is with my awareness, in real time, that it’s shifting.   I can feel whether that shift is appropriate, or whether I need to adjust.  And I’m able to do this more quickly and without interrupting my form.   

I’ve started to feel like I’m the one in control of this.  Like I’m finally learning to steer the ship, rather than just bobbing along letting the waves take me where they will.  

IHC Number Update - July 8, 2021

 My July IHC Update

✅ = achieving/exceeding my numbers or generally on track where numbers don't really apply.  

❌ = behind on my numbers, things aren't going well or I haven't taken any steps to complete the goal yet.

➖ = unsure of progress, the opportunity hasn't presented itself yet, it may take the full year to properly evaluate, or it's something I would need my instructors to determine my success/failure.  I've decided to still list these things here just as a reminder that they are still requirements.

Base Requirements

✅  Hand Form - Da Mu Hsing I-V  419/1000

✅  Knife Form - Goju-Shorei Talon  415/1000

✅ Push-ups  21655/50,000

✅ Sit-ups  21658/50,000

✅ Sparring  416/1000

✅ Kilometers 823/1609

✅ Acts of Kindness 417/1000

✅ Blogging/Online Presence

✅ Unexcused Absences

❌ Mastery by Stewart Emery...I've been neglecting this...

➖ Mend a Relationship - This is hard.  But I'm still working at it.

❌  Lion Dancing - haven't really focused on this recently

 ❌ Tiger Challenge

✅  Public Performances - Participating in virtual demo

✅  Core Curriculum - I'm assuming

✅  SRKF Projects and Initiatives - currently assisting Sifu Ward with virtual demo video.

Personal Requirements

✅  Weekly Dharma Talks - I'm running short on these.  I've substituted some reading of Thich Nhat Hanh books for this.

❌ Pottery - Not much happening hands on lately.  But my moms husband was here and got my kiln wired up properly so I should be able to do my first bisque fire!!!

✅  Box Jumps - This is proving to be very difficult.  I thought that after I worked past that first one it would be smooth sailing.  Not so.  I'm up to 3.  But progressing nonetheless.

✅ Learn how to change my car tires  - Complete.

❌ Learn how to change Oil  - I gave up waiting for Dan and took it in...lol.  This will have to wait until next time.

✅ Indoor Plant - I thought I was down to 1 lemon tree.  But I left the other (that seemed to be dying) and low and behold it suddenly had some new growth!!  My main lemon tree is doing very well (picture in comments).  Things were touch and go for a bit when Tank knocked my whole plant stand over and I even had to replant some things that were knocked right out of their pots.  But it looks like it's all survived that for now!  And my Kwoon spider plant is doing amazingly well and is producing all kinds of babies (picture in comments).

❌ Save for Family Getaway - I have to start over.  We needed a new roof.  😥

✅ Compliment Dan, Emma and Nathan at least once a day.

✅ Children's book - Complete.

Side Heel Month of June - Recap

I have completed my “Side Heel Month of June”.  I’m proud to say that I didn’t miss any days and I have another 3000 kicks under my belt.  

My main focus for this challenge was to identify major issues that are holding me back from improvement. The following are what I noticed,

1.  I need to keep my body more upright. I’m leaning far more than I need to and causing a disconnect. 

2.  I need to define my crane more, both initially and at the end.  Almost like I need to consolidate everything before kicking and then reconsolidate again before stepping back (controlled).

3.  I need to incorporate my arms.  It’s almost like they have nothing to do with this kick and are just an afterthought.  They tend to just flail and end up adding to the problem rather than helping.

4.  I need to really work on opening up on my left.  I think this is the major difference I’m feeling between sides.   When I kick with my right, things feel much better than my left, which tends to feel constricted and “tight”.   This is with all kicks and exercises. 

5.  I need to maintain that connection between my energy and intent.  Even when all the other things above are working, if I’m missing this, everything is just weak and feels sort of pointless...for lack of a better way to describe it. 

As I wrote the above, I was reminded of the 6 harmonies.  The connection between our upper and lower halves.  Our left to our right.  Hands-feet, elbows-knees, shoulders-hips, spirit-intent, intent-chi, chi-strength.  I’ve always considered my issue with the Side Heel as a problem with balance. Yes, I become off balance, but I think that’s a symptom, rather than the cause.  Now that I see these things in writing, I am noticing the correlation to the 6 harmonies and I think my main issue is having several disconnections at the same time.

I did take a video at the end and compared it to one from March.  You’d think after that many kicks there’d be something that improved, even if it was small.  Unfortunately I can’t say anything has improved.  In fact, the March one looks better.  

I’ll keep moving forward. Although right now I’m not sure what to focus on first.  There are so many things that need work.  And they all seem to be connected.  I'll likely focus first on the precision in my crane.  It's both the start and the finish to this kick, and others, so seems like a logical place to start.