Besties

Sihing Burke asked on Thursday whether the team had kept in touch with their "besties" that were initiated at the start of the year.  The answer for me is "yes" and she just so happens to be one of mine.

I think my group has worked for a few different reasons.  For one, we created a WhatsAp group to communicate immediately following that class where we check in, share, poke, etc.  I am also quite connected to my group outside of our "bestie" group with things like lion dancing, the fan and teaching.  So there's really nowhere to hide.  Something else that stands out to me is that it hasn't fallen on just one person to maintain the connection.  As I look through our thread, we've all stayed active, both responding to and initiating communication.  And when it's gone quiet for a bit, someone pipes up.  There were even occasions where we attempted to participate in each others requirements to try and generate some momentum for the other person and to try and share in why their goal was important to them.

We have all sputtered and drifted off track....but then suddenly there's been someone pulling us back.

As an example, I was recently tasked with implementing a plan to get back on track with my notes.  How did they know I had fallen off?  Well...because someone knew to ask.  And so I agreed that I needed to do something.  I was then asked to set a deadline.  Damn, ok....getting specific now.  And so I did.  And THEN it was agreed that if I didn't meet my deadline, that my besties would be allowed to come up with an appropriate consequence, but that I wouldn't know what it was in advance.  And to be quite honest, I didn't want to find out.  And so did I meet my deadline?  You bet I did.  And would I have gotten this going again on my own?  Probably not.

So for me, personally, my bestie group has definitely added value to my year.